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Title: My dad just died.
Post by: -KEN- on April 17, 2008, 07:45:10 AM

I just found out a bit ago ago, although it feels like it's been an hour already. He'd been in the hospital variously for cancer, a stroke and, most recently, a chemo shot that affected him somehow to lose the ability to walk for a little while.

I talked to him yesterday, he sounded OK. The doctors had just figured out what was wrong with him. They'd gotten him to walk for a little. He was probably going to get released today.

So now, with far too much work ahead of me in the next few weeks, and finals looming within spitting distance, I'm about to head on home. I have no idea when the funeral is; I really don't want to call back to ask. And I really, really don't want to have to individually tell a bunch of people.

I miss my dad. I've been preparing for this for a while, though. Doesn't make it any easier.

However, I just managed to forget for a whole 30 minutes or so by getting lost on the web. Thank you, Internet.

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Post by: stealth on April 17, 2008, 08:28:59 AM

Oh mate, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :(

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Post by: micah on April 17, 2008, 08:46:41 AM

wow that sucks.  My condolences.

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Post by: jkim on April 17, 2008, 08:53:46 AM

Wow, sorry for your loss.  You guys have my prayers.

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Post by: drakkenkorin on April 17, 2008, 08:55:53 AM

Deepest condolences to you and yours on your loss.

Death of a loved one is never easily accepted - and unlike those who say "time heals all wounds" - the death of a loved one is never really healed.  It will lessen over time, but it never really goes away.

If you need to talk, even to vent, I'm always a PM away . . .

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Post by: Jake on April 17, 2008, 09:01:25 AM

So very sorry to hear that Ken. It is always tough to lose a loved one (I can't even imagine how it is to lose your dad) but try to celebrate his life instead of mourning his death - I'm sure he would want it that way.

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Post by: Mike on April 17, 2008, 09:07:38 AM

Sorry for your lose Ken.  Even if you are expecting it and "prepare" for it, it is never easy.  Go home and be with your family and forget about school, it'll be there when you get back (though do ask about the possibility of getting an incomplete if you can/need it).  Most importantly, when you do go back march your butt into the school's psych/counseling center and get yourself an appointment.  It'll help.

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Post by: Perspective on April 17, 2008, 10:37:29 AM

Condolences Ken, sorry to hear that.

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Post by: kermi3 on April 17, 2008, 10:53:21 AM

I'm so sorry Ken.  My deepest condolenses.

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Post by: charlie on April 17, 2008, 10:56:47 AM

I'm very sorry to hear that Ken. You have my sincere condolences as well.

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Post by: KnuckleBuckett on April 17, 2008, 11:10:31 AM

My heart goes out to you man. 

Tough situation.

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Post by: ober on April 17, 2008, 11:24:54 AM

So very sorry to hear that Ken.  As DK said, we're all here for you if you need anything at all.

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Post by: Rob on April 17, 2008, 12:10:42 PM

Sorry to hear that Ken. Words are never enough, I know, but like everyone said above, we're here and thinking of you.

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Post by: Dumah on April 17, 2008, 02:54:59 PM

That's awful news. Deepest condolences.

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Post by: -KEN- on April 17, 2008, 06:08:46 PM

Thanks guys, it helps. I'm home now, people are flowing in and out of the house in a constant stream, we have more food than we ever have before, the most giant bouquets of flowers I've ever seen, even a bouquet of fruit.

But I'll be OK. Some friends are coming down to see me; I don't think I'll need counseling, but thanks for the advice. After all these years, I find it refreshing that you guys are still the people I come to first with big news.

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Post by: -KEN- on April 17, 2008, 06:09:14 PM

The most surreal part, though: the first obit I've ever written outside of class, and it's for my father.

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Post by: Canuck on April 17, 2008, 07:00:36 PM

Really sorry to hear that Ken! My condolences!

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Post by: A Bit of Fruit on April 17, 2008, 08:55:00 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that, ken. Its never easy. You're lucky that you've got a lot of support around you to make it easier.

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Post by: VBprogrammer on April 18, 2008, 05:46:23 PM

My deepest condolences Ken. Hope everything is ok.

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Post by: Steve on April 18, 2008, 05:58:13 PM

Condolences Ken, its never easy to loose a loved one =[

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Post by: Gametaku on April 19, 2008, 01:32:21 AM

You have my condolences and my prayers for you and your family.

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Post by: incognito on April 19, 2008, 01:13:02 PM

Sorry to hear that, my condolences. That's gotta be one of the toughest things to go thru.

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Post by: Gades on April 19, 2008, 06:50:02 PM

Sorry for you and your family Ken.

Two weeks ago a friend died in a car accident and almost two months ago my newphew died (5 months, heart failure). So if you want to talk about it, just PM me and I´ll give you a call.

Don't try to forget about him, try to think what a good time you had with him. Think that he'll always love you and remember you.

For me, it helps going for a walk along the beach on my own and cry a bit.