can you actually use your vacation days? I find that even with my meager 15-17 PTO days I've had per year over the last 10 years, I end up carrying over or losing (depending on company policy) at least 5 to 10 of them and the days I DO take are generally just ad-hoc days (like a single Friday, or the Tuesday after a Monday holiday). I've heard stories, especially in the tech industry, of companys with unlimited Vacation time but the workload prevents you from ever using it. I kinda feel like I'm already in that boat.
I wonder if my girlfriend would move to northern cali? of course, I'd probably not be able to take my kids. Hmmm