It was a cat 1, but it was physically large and hit an area that was completely unprepared. By the numbers it wasn't too bad. Winds weren't too fast, not too much rain, and the storm surge wasn't too high by southern standards, and THANK GOD it sped up at the end...but it's not the south, it was high tide and hit an area that was totally unprotected and unprepared.
Obes - Please tell your cousin that we're all thinking of them. The whole city is - and tell her that It Gets Better. It really does. I know the feeling like everything around you is washed away (and thank god I never had unrepairable damange to my homes) - but it really does get better. People really do rebuild. It. Will. Happen.