and BTW, my wife worked through college as well - sure it was in Poland, and the reality of everything at that time was so much different from the one in the states it is hard to describe. And even though school was "free" she had many expenses associated with the school and living on her own. She worked as a copier tech and a bar tender. She didn't have to take out loans.
I don't know why you guys seem to throw it in my face that hard work can make shit happen? yes, yes, I understand - circumstances, depression, bad feelings, bad cards dealt...blah blah blah. We all have challenges - all of us - some of us decide to make them a crutch and become victims - and others work through them.