>>Regarding #1, I click change, and then it brings me the list of programs you can open the file with, just as if you did a right click > Open with (select a program from a list).....<<
Sorry man, was a real quick post - click "Advanced > Change Icon" - the option to change the icon should appear there
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>>Regarding #2, Im pretty sure Windows Media player somehow turns off the screen saver, just couldnt find the option in VLC<<
Poss, but WMP is more or less part of Windows - perhaps there's a regkey setting you need to hack for VLC?